Legalize It

Despite the title, this blog entry has nothing to do with the famous Peter Tosh song. What I am referring to is the legalization of a 10 year, queer relationship. Woo-Hoo. Hurray for us.

A. and I have have talked frequently over the years about getting legal protections for our relationship since national, state and local law doesn't officially recognize our union as legitimate. But we have put it off for various reasons. Primarily, we have always thought we had plenty of time to take care of our arrangements, and also we have been reluctant to think about our deaths, property, power of attorney, and all the other things that come into play when you try to legalize an illegal domestic/romantic union.

But we aren't getting any younger and realized that the time to take action is now. So, we started the paper work today and by next week it should all be processed.

We are now, officially, legally, together in some aspects of the law. While it's not "real" marriage, it makes me feel good. Sad that some forms drawn up by a lawyer would have this effect on two people who, in our eyes, have been married for quite some time. But it's true. I feel different.

Today, I feel married and protected.

Time to crack open the champagne.

jb